My Journey Through Grief, Bullying & Becoming | Legally Clueless Ep 354

Update: 2025-12-01

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In this week’s episode of Legally Clueless, Adelle shares Part 1 of Gachambi’s powerful story a deeply human journey through childhood displacement, bullying, grief, academic pressure, and the long road back to herself. Born and raised in Kasarani, Gachambi grew up a brilliant child… until post-election violence disrupted her life and forced a school change that altered everything. She opens up about being bullied in high school, navigating independence for the first time, discovering club culture in university, losing her father while in first year, and silently battling depression she didn’t have the language for. Through community, friendship, faith, and sheer resilience, she kept going even when she wasn’t sure she could. In Part 1, you’ll hear:

Growing up between stability and sudden upheaval
How bullying shaped her fear of physical harm
The pressures of being a “smart girl” and eldest daughter
Drinking, club life, and the escape it offered
The unexpected loss of her father and her emotional shutdown
How unprocessed grief followed her into adulthood
The role of community in rebuilding her academic life
The complicated balance of identity, expectations, and survival

This story is an honest look at the messy, nonlinear path of becoming and the quiet battles many people carry. Listen, reflect, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear they’re not alone.

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